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How To Get Everything You Want

“You can have everything in life that you want if you will just help enough other people get what they want.” – Zig Ziglar

This quote resonates for so deeply I am compelled to write another post about it.

At times I’ve been frustrated in building my business, in developing relationships and sometimes with life in general. Every time I feel frustration, or a desire to give up and hide, I find that I am not serving.

It’s (usually) hard to see that in the moment, but it gets easier and easier with practice.

But enough about developing awareness, that’s a subject for a whole other series of posts…

Whatever it is you want (with an infinitesimal number of exceptions), it comes from relationships with – and service to – other people.

If there’s something that you want, if there’s something you think is missing, serve. Ask yourself what can I offer to make those around me better off?

If you need help, offer help. If you’re confused and not sure what to do, offer someone assistance in solving a problem. If you’re down about something, find someone whose spirits you can brighten.

It’s true that it can be hard to offer help when you need it yourself, so don’t wait that long.

Be proactive.

Offer help, often. Offer your gifts with regularity. You’ll find that when you do, the help or resource(s) you need, when you need them, are there.

As Harvey Mackay says, “Dig your well before your’re thirsty.”

Experience + Awareness = Empathy

“Do not be critics, you people, I beg you. I was a critic and I wish I could take it all back because it came from a smelly and ignorant place in me, and spoke with a voice that was all rage and envy. Do not dismiss a book until you have written one, and do not dismiss a movie until you have made one, and do not dismiss a person until you have met them. It is a lot of work to be open-minded and generous and understanding and forgiving and accepting, but that is what matters. What matters is saying yes.” – Dave Eggers

Be empathetic…

Enjoy Yourself – All The Time, No Matter What

We’re not always doing what we want to do (even if we don’t know what we want to do).

So: we don’t know what we want to do, but we know it’s not this, and we’re dissatisfied.

Or.

We’re clear about what we want to be doing and where we want to be, but we’re not there yet. And we’re unhappy.

. . .

Why not be happy, where you are, what you’re doing?

Or at least grateful for where you are and what you’re doing? (I’ve found a quick “reality check” will remind me that I have much to be grateful for… )

I believe I have found a way to embrace my current reality, even though it isn’t what I want. And, honestly, I haven’t taken the time to get clear on what I want (because, I think, I’m afraid to “name” it, causing the excuses and “ignorance” to evaporate into the ether).

I know that there’s a big gulf between where I am and where I want to be, but I am bound and determined (pleasantly and non-graspingly so… ) to enjoy myself now, wherever I am, whatever I am doing.

Could you do that*?

* You could, anyone can…

Everything Is Earned

This is a post from a mentor of mine that I had to share.

I don’t gamble because I don’t want to start thinking I can get something for nothing – everything is earned.

Here is Steve’s post in its entirety:

The whole concept of the lottery is based on what Gandhi insisted was one of life’s true evils: unearned money.  The concept that ruins more businesses and individuals than any other: something for nothing. A bubble-leveraged greed grab for instant financial payoff.

When people begin to tell themselves that money itself is what’s missing in their lives, the lying has begun. Because money is not what’s missing.  What’s missing is the ability to make it and save it. The personal effectiveness is what is missing. The inner strength.

Action builds that strength, and we lie to ourselves to stay out of action.

Live well and prosper,

Steve

Wealth Warrior Movement

It’s All About Expectations

“Things turn out best for the people who make the best of the way things turn out.” – John Wooden

I’ve heard that you get what you expect.

It’s true.

Why? Because we decide what everything means. And these decisions determine what we do and don’t do, consciously or otherwise, all the time.

If we want to see someone handing us $1M as terrible (because we will be beset with moochers, or whatever… ) then we will create the thoughts necessary for that view.

If we want to see the million as a wonderful opportunity to both create a measure of personal financial security and help others by careful, thoughtful donations, then we will.

What do you expect in your life? Do things always seem to go a certain way? Is it possible that you’re creating the conditions that create those outcomes?

How do you process and assign meaning to your situation and results? (Are you even aware that you are doing this all the time?)

Decide to find the best – or at least the lesson – in everything.